www.theGODscam.com Anti-religious Humor and Commentary. If you look back on your life honestly, then, you will see times when you felt humiliated as a child. You will also see times when you have gotten involved with bad situations. This doesnt mean that you deliberately wanted to suffer; it just indicates that people most often choose what is known over what is unknown. That is, for children who have experienced some form of humiliation or abuse in their families, even though abuse and humiliation are not pleasant they are known and predictable, and in that sense theyre comfortable. And thats masochism in a nutshell: preferring (desiring) humiliation unconsciously because its more comfortable than facing the unknown with true personal responsibility. Technically, this is the distinction between desire (unconscious) and want (conscious). As odd as it sounds, because of hidden unconscious conflicts you can very well desire something you dont even want. Now, the especially sad thing here is that, because unconscious desires cant be seen directly, most persons will deny that they have them. But, just as an animals presence can be deduced by the evidence of its tracks, so desires can be deduced by the evidence of the behavior they cause. For example, maybe you cant see your secret desire to destroy yourself, but maybe you can see your behaviors—that is, that you smoke cigarettes, overeat, drink heavily, are prone to arguing, take risks, procrastinate, have difficulty …